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Some cats may feel stressed when they are left alone but there’s lots you can do to help them 

Although cats are usually quite happy to spend time in their own company, they can experience separation-related issues and loneliness when their owner is not home. This can lead to unwanted behaviours. Play and enrichment are one way you can help prevent this, to make sure your cat is happy at home and prevent boredom as well. 

“In recent years many people bought or adopted pets at times when they were home the majority of the day,” said Nicky Trevorrow, Cats Protection’s Behaviour Manager. “Now, as people are working out of the home more and holidays are back in full swing, some pet owners may find that their pets experience separation-related behaviours and loneliness.” 

Can cats get separation anxiety?

long-haired ginger cat sitting next to glass-panelled door

Separation anxiety, or separation-related behaviour, occurs more commonly with dogs, as they are an innately social species and so have to learn that it’s alright to be left at home alone. If they are not taught this, then they may become distressed when left and display unwanted or destructive behaviours. 

Cats are more solitary by nature, and so usually don’t mind being left alone for a while, but they are also creatures of habit and routine. If their routine suddenly changes, for example, their owner starts leaving the house for long periods after having spent lots of time at home with them, they may experience separation-related frustration, similar to separation anxiety, as a result. This is likely to be more common in cats who have never been left alone in their current home for long periods. 

In both cats and dogs, separation-related behaviours can be linked to when a particular member of the household leaves, even if other people are still around. Therefore, even if you leave your cat with someone at home, you may still notice changes in the behaviour. 

Signs of separation anxiety in cats

ginger-and-white cat sat on pink cat tower with mouth open

To find out if your cat is becoming anxious or frustrated when left alone, you could try setting up a camera to record video of them while you are not home and look for evidence of the following signs:

If you notice a change in your cat’s behaviour, first take them to the vet as there could be a medical cause that needs investigating. If your cat is otherwise healthy, then they may be experiencing separation-related issues.

“Some pets will take changes in their stride and not be too bothered about you coming and going, said Nicky. “But other pets may find this more challenging to cope with, particularly pets that don’t have much experience of being alone. 

“Cats can feel fearful, anxious, frustrated, bored, or even depressed, all emotions that cause stress. It’s important to understand your cat’s underlying emotions as this can help you understand how they are coping with any sudden changes.” 

How to help your cat with separation anxiety 

1. Introduce a regular routine

Cats are creatures of routine, and they find sudden changes stressful. Keeping to a regular routine of feeding times, playtimes, rest times and so on can help them feel more relaxed.

2. Give them opportunities to play alone

Cats are natural hunters, so they need a lot of mental and physical stimulation. Try leaving toys out for them to play with, cardboard boxes for them to explore or hide in and use puzzle feeders for their mealtimes. You can even pop a couple of spoonfuls of dried catnip into an old sock, securely knot and give it to your cat as a toy.

long-haired brown tabby cat playing with green feathery fishing rod toy

3. Have playtime before you leave

You can help your cat burn off some energy by engaging them in some playtime before you leave. Try using a fishing rod toy, cats love chasing them around and taking part in this energetic game, but ensure that they are safely stored out of your cat’s reach afterwards.

4. Give them safe access to outside

Cats like to prowl and explore their territory, so where safe and possible, ensure your cat has easy access to a cat flap. If your cat has been microchipped, you might want to consider installing a microchip cat flap in your home. These identify cats trying to enter your home by scanning their microchip and will only allow entry to those whose microchip number you have programmed into the cat flap. A great buy for those looking to exclude intruders.

5. Help them to feel safe when left alone

Cats feel the most secure when they can get up high and survey their surroundings, so make sure your cat has somewhere to safely get up high, such as a cat tower, clear windowsill or shelf. Leaving the radio or television on a low volume may help some cats relax and you could also use a pheromone diffuser, such as Feliway, that emits calming cat pheromones.

grey-and-white cat sat on beige cat tower

6. Don’t make a big deal of leaving

It might make us feel better to shower our pet with hugs and kisses before we leave but it can actually make them feel more stressed. Instead, make minimal fuss so your moggy doesn’t feel too stressed about you leaving.

7. Make changes gradually

If you suspect that your cat is showing signs of separation-related frustration, it is important to gradually increase the amount of time you leave them so that they can adapt more easily. Remember, 15 minutes may not seem like long to us, but for an animal frustrated by being left alone that can be a long time. Start by leaving them for as short an amount of time as possible, perhaps standing outside the front door for a few minutes before returning, and gradually build it up.

8. Prepare early

If you are currently spending a lot of time at home but know that will be changing soon, such as if you’re returning to the office after working from home, start preparing your cat as soon as possible. Begin purposefully leaving them for five minutes at a time and build it up gradually in increments that your cat is comfortable with.

Find more help and advice on helping your cat cope with stress.

For more ways to learn about play and feeding enrichment for indoor cats, check out our work with Purina, helping to keep happy cats in happy homes. 

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